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Helping Children Adjust to New Baby
Readers Question…
How do you deal with older children adjusting to a new baby? My children are 9 (girl), 7 (boy), and 4 (boy) and now they have a newborn sister but they are really acting out and vying for my attention all the time. Thanks!
My Reply…
Stop Resisting…What do I mean by that you might ask and this is what I mean. We all have resistance to challenges, having a new baby in the mix of 3 other children will of course cause some challenges. Yet, if you step back and take 3 deep breathes and ask yourself what am I resisting in this situation, the answers will surely come. For example; you may be worried the boys will be to rough with the new baby and that may cause resistance between you and the older boys. The oldest girl may be wanting to sit in your lap and you are thinking she is too old for that, why is she acting like such a baby when she is 9 = resistance. Trust me, when you youngest is 9 you will be wanting them to sit in your lap and snuggle. The other thing that often happens in a family when there is a new baby is that mom wants the others to take on more responsibilities because they are “old enough to…” = resistance. I suggest you take a little bit of quiet time and ask yourself “what am I resisting with the older children” then open you heart and listen. Open yourself to ALL the love that is flowing in your direction, vying for your attention. Take notice and remember…
~what we resists, persists~
2 comments March 23, 2009
